Love Notes 🤍 Happiness is truly an internal, individual process that each of us must cultivate

A therapist once told me about an interview she had watched of Warren Beatty, one of Hollywood’s most notorious bachelors who had been with many famous starlets throughout his career until he met and married actress Annette Bening (his co-star in Bugsy). The interviewer asked Warren what it was about Annette Bening in particular that made him want to finally settle down and get married. His response was, “She knows how to make herself happy.”

Sometimes we put too much pressure on our partners to fulfill us, when in reality, it’s not their job. This is where the label “needy” tends to emerge. When you come into relationship expecting your partner to fulfill you, your happiness will always be dependent on external factors that will always fluctuate, keeping you off balance.

Happiness is truly an internal, individual process that each of us must cultivate. Then, we enter a relationship as a whole person who attracts another whole person, which further enhances and multiplies that which is already present and magnificent.