The Breakup Post-Mortem

“Without taking time for proper closure to a relationship—whether it lasted 3 months or 30 years—we’re likely ignoring our feelings of grief and loss. Ending a relationship teaches us many lessons—both good and bad—about how we love. Recognizing the ways we’re giving or controlling, when we’re driven by fantasy over reality, how we’re selfless or selfish, or where we fold or withhold provides us with valuable data on who we are. Don’t shorten your learning curve by moving on with someone new before doing a proper emotional autopsy on your last relationship. After all, you were (or thought you were) in love with that person at one time. Once you feel complete with yourself about your prior romance and feel like you’ve had proper closure with your former partner (meaning you’re not holding on to any anger or resentment), then, and only then, is it time to move on with the new.” - Mirror of Intimacy

So many people try to bypass the painful, uncomfortable feelings after a breakup (or any painful event). But the emotions are still there manifesting as addiction, anxiety, depression and so much more. Failure to take responsibility and perform a kind of post-mortem after a relationship results in attracting the same person in a different body over and over again, as well as limiting our ability to inhabit our highest potential. By acknowledging and feeling through our emotions, we transform them into creative jet fuel that heals and propels us forward. Emotions are power, harness them!